seek therapy, find a therapist who specializes in OCD. some doctors have a hard hard time distinguishing between HOCD, and a sexual indentity crisis.
if you need free referals, check out www.ocfoundation.org. they're an excellent site that has free referals. also if you have time check out their "ask the experts" section.
i feel your pain, and i know how it feels to be going through what youre going through right now. but remember that you arent alone. there are many of us here who suffer from the HOCD that you suffer from. i'm glad you found this board, and i hope you find comfort, and kind advice from this board.
at times there are trolls just like at any other board. just ignore them, and let them past. theyll soon enough leave because nobody pays attention to them.
take care, and god bless.