Re: what are the sympotoms for gays in denial?

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Posted by John16 on May 23, 2002:
In Reply to: what are the sympotoms for gays in denial? posted by Don on May 22, 2002:
No, it would not be R.I.P. for your HOCD. No matter what you hear, you will always come up with more doubts. Like I have always been told and have found to be true, you must develop a "I don't care" attitude. I know this is impossible to do, but it mostly just takes time. I just tell myself that I have better things to worry about. Believe it or not, you return to your pre-HOCD lifestyle. The thoughts/urges/impulses still come every so often, but as long as you dismiss them, they will not affect you. I don't know what to tell you to do to get over this HOCD. I suffered from it for the past 14 months (continually recovering), and I would have no idea on what to tell a sufferer to do.

I have just now started combing my hair and trying to look nice lately. Until now, if I ever did anything in an attempt to look nice, my brain would tell me that I was doing it only to impress men. Its a screwed up disease.

I only get anxious around stuff every once in a while. Sometimes, I will see a feminine guy talking or something and it just makes me sick. I start to think that I could be gay and I will act like that. I mean, some of these homosexual men start talking and they are like the laughing-stock of the whole group. They act so goofy that it makes them look like they have some kind of problem. Almost like they are retarded. Do they realize how they sound and act? In all their years of living, wouldn't they atleast try to act normal?

If anything, try exposing yourself to things that would scare the hell out of you. One thing I did was go to (www.comingoutstories.com). It really makes you depressed to read these stories that SEEM to relate to exactly what we are going through, but in the long run, it helps in allowing you to develop that "I don't care" attitude.

So, hang in there.

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>>  No, it would not be R.I.P. for your HOCD.  No matter what you hear, you will always come up with more doubts.  Like I have always been told and have found to be true, you must develop a "I don't care" attitude.  I know this is impossible to do, but it mostly just takes time.  I just tell myself that I have better things to worry about.  Believe it or not, you return to your pre-HOCD lifestyle.  The thoughts/urges/impulses still come every so often, but as long as you dismiss them, they will not affect you.  I don't know what to tell you to do to get over this HOCD.  I suffered from it for the past 14 months (continually recovering), and I would have no idea on what to tell a sufferer to do.

>>  I have just now started combing my hair and trying to look nice lately.  Until now, if I ever did anything in an attempt to look nice, my brain would tell me that I was doing it only to impress men.  Its a screwed up disease.

>>  I only get anxious around stuff every once in a while.  Sometimes, I will see a feminine guy talking or something and it just makes me sick.  I start to think that I could be gay and I will act like that.  I mean, some of these homosexual men start talking and they are like the laughing-stock of the whole group.  They act so goofy that it makes them look like they have some kind of problem.  Almost like they are retarded.  Do they realize how they sound and act?  In all their years of living, wouldn't they atleast try to act normal?

>>  If anything, try exposing yourself to things that would scare the hell out of you.  One thing I did was go to (www.comingoutstories.com).  It really makes you depressed to read these stories that SEEM to relate to exactly what we are going through, but in the long run, it helps in allowing you to develop that "I don't care" attitude.

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>>  So, hang in there.

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